This is an important point to make clearly and often (as you have done nicely). This is the condition where the pastors and leaders of a church "movement" or denomination or whatever clever term they use must decide who they follow. Jesus is nice, and so's the New Testament, but the Vineyard is what's making their house payments.
The same brand of people who tell us it's more important to recognize our identity in Christ have acquiesced to their higher calling: their identity and membership in the Vineyard.
Thanks for pointing out this hypocrisy so well. I hope this and other writings will encourage LGBTQ people to seek out a church that will accept them as whole people rather than projects needing to be fixed.