There are a few things you mention in here that I think are really important. (well more than a few but a few I want to call attention to). First, you were in several positions connected with organizations that advocated for conversion therapy but you didn't participate in providing conversion therapy - which is really cool. I know you were attempting to be a lever from the inside in at least one case.
The second is how you co-identify as a gay man and a Christian, in opposition to what the PCA would have you do. This idea that gay men (or women or whomever) would somehow sin because of a label they attach to themselves is ridiculous, and I'm glad it was part of this conversation.
Sometimes staying in an organization to reform it makes sense, other times it doesn't. Glad you made it out of this one!