I was challenged when a lesbian lawyer heard my story of keeping my sexuality to myself at work, while my boss shared photos of his church missionary trip to India.

She said, "so how come he gets to tell his story, but you don't get to tell yours?"

I didn't have an answer. So the next week, I started telling my story. It absolutely set my career back, and I don't regret it for a moment.

I see a small difference in the pre-gay US military, but not a moral one. I think your story illuminates the hypocrisy of the "keep your gay out of my face while I try to convert you to Jesus" approach many evangelicals take - and I agree with the new SCOTUS we can expect more of it.

Thanks for writing - it was an interesting read on top of provoking by brain!